For a long time, she was busy in the change room, trying on dozens of different outfits. A couple of times she burst into tears. Then, she sat down at the dressing table and began (as it seemed) to slowly apply her makeup. For hours, she was hardly seen as she styled her hair just right. He, waiting, gradually lost his temper, not knowing how long it would be before another party or social event would occur, no matter how boring. Anyway, no one would care about how she was dressed. If her eyes were less than perfect, no one would notice the difference and it would save them a lot of time.
In the end, he is consumed with anger and demanding to know when she will be ready. In response, she protests and fumes and, as a result, throws him out of the room and locks the door with a key. She may even refuse to go anywhere as she melts into another bout of tears, leaving her dress stained with make-up, spoiling all of her hard work and setting them both back another few hours.
If they still end up in the car at some point, the man will probably speed to make up for lost time while chastising her for the entire journey for her slowness and perfectionism. The argument may also entail (God forbid) all of her mistakes committed in the past few years. The relationship may never recover. This happens to women who have not learned to manage their time, as well to men unprepared for these scenarios, where time is poorly managed.
Sound familiar, right?
If the man is lucky, he has learned from watching his mother that, three hours before an event, it is wise (necessary) to gently whisper in her ear that it is time to assemble and then to be patient. Sit down with your favourite gadget and do not disturb the woman. She needs to focus, so avoid interrupting! Reminding of the time cannot occur more than once every half hour, otherwise it will come to nothing and results will be delayed.
Many assume that women must be able to do everything quickly and flawlessly, as the heroine Audrey Hepburn could in the film ‘Breakfast at Tiffany’s’, but women are not robots …
The trouble is that she does not have time to justify her methods. Everything is just beginning in the dressing room and patience is the key. The culmination will be realised in the car when the man wants to make up for his ‘suffering’ and for the long tedious wait.
I have long thought about why this happens, until, on the internet, I came across a picture with the caption «Here is the patience»:
In my opinion, this is a very precise illustration of what happens to a person who is angry and loses his temper. When he burns, he needs a replenishment of internal energy reserves. The most convenient source is the provider of the object that caused the «righteous anger» in order to take away all of the internal negative forces. No matter if the object, at the time, is in a state of beautiful meditation, a positive charge must be created so that the power balance will be restored.
We feed our inner demons when we are angry, which often leaves us feeling exhausted, even if we end up successfully avoiding conflict. As a result, our energy is dissipated and the anger destroys us from within, adding wrinkles to our face. Happy people are more likely to last longer and look better.
We can all agree that it is awfully hard to ignore aggravations and to look at everything with humour. Still, it is possible! It is only necessary to recall Shakespeare («The World as Stage») and to take a seat in the audience, abstracting from the offenders.
Most importantly, love thy neighbour. We can endlessly quarrel, but sometimes standing still, we can ride out the storm and move on, remembering the love of the one who staged the storm.
Love to all of us!